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Sexual abuse is always intolerable, regardless of the circumstances

Responding to editors’ requests for a regular sampling of current commentary from around the Catholic press, here is an editorial called “Sexual abuse is always intolerable, regardless of the circumstances” from the Aug. 10 issue of The Criterion, newspaper of the Archdiocese of Indianapolis. It was written by Daniel Conway, a member of the paper’s editorial board.

Just when you think things can’t get any worse, they do. Hollywood moguls, prominent politicians and revered religious leaders have recently been exposed as sexual predators who abused their authority and, in the process, seriously undermined the dignity of countless women, men and children who were unfortunate enough to come under their evil influence.

The case of Archbishop Theodore E. McCarrick, until very recently a member of the College of Cardinals, is particularly heinous. If the allegations against him are true, as a priest, bishop and cardinal, he took something sacred — the trust of children and youth, young adults, priests, bishops and the entire people of God — and trashed it in pursuit of his own gratification.

How could anyone do this? How could anyone who takes seriously the promises made at his ordination or during his installation as a bishop and, later his elevation as a cardinal, look himself in the mirror each morning?

Regardless of the circumstances, sexual abuse is always intolerable. Of course, the more vulnerable the abused person is — children especially — the more serious and damaging the offense. Sexual predators are frequently intelligent, charming and skilled at gaining the trust of unsuspecting victims. Often, these abusers were themselves the victims of sexual, physical or emotional abuse who merely perpetuate the vicious cycle of cruel indignities that are afflicted on others.

The church’s leaders are human and, therefore, subject to the same influences as everyone else. They are sinners called to holiness with the same opportunities and obstacles faced by all the faithful. But as the late Indianapolis Archbishop Daniel M. Buechlein frequently reminded us, deacons, priests and bishops are held to “a higher standard.” They are expected to be virtuous, chaste and unselfish in their daily lives and in their ministry to others — especially those who are most vulnerable.

It is a horrible truth that one out of every five female children and one out of every six male children will be sexually abused — usually by someone they trust — before they reach 18 years of age. Nearly 18 percent of children and youths in the United States experience the tragic reality of sexual abuse. Until the past few decades, most sexual abuse was unreported and most abusers were not held accountable for their crimes.

Since 2002, most Catholic dioceses in the U.S. have worked hard to ensure the protection of children and youths. “Zero tolerance” has been applied to most cases of abuse, and the abusers. Whether priests or lay employees (teachers, coaches, youth ministers, etc.), they have been swiftly removed from their positions of responsibility and reported to civil authorities. This is as it should be, but it doesn’t go far enough.

The Dallas “Charter for the Protection of Children and Young People” was accepted by the American bishops in 2002 in response to the explosion of allegations of sexual abuse by members of the clergy. Since that time, much work has been done in the education and prevention of sexual abuse against minors. What was once taken for granted — the personal dignity and profound respect due to every child, but especially those who are sick, suffering or handicapped — is now solemnly proclaimed and vigilantly safeguarded by the bishops, priests, deacons, religious women and men and lay leaders who carry out the church’s work in our parishes, schools and other ministries. This is as it should be, but it doesn’t go far enough.

The horrific scandal that began decades ago with one revelation after another of prominent Catholic clergy who either sexually abused minors, or engaged in abusive sexual misconduct of young adults, or adults who were somehow vulnerable to their advances continues. Bishops who covered up the sexual abuse of minors engaged in by their priests, or who were themselves guilty of such misconduct, have been called out and punished. And even members of the College of Cardinals from diverse regions of the world have now been held accountable.

When will it end?

This crisis cannot end until every child, youth, young adult and adult is treated with acceptance, love, esteem and emotional and spiritual respect by church leaders at every level and by faithful Catholics. The crisis cannot end until all of us commit to respecting the rights and dignity of all others, and until safe environments are established and safeguarded for all who are in any way vulnerable.

And the crisis can only end when all who occupy positions of trust — in the family, in society and in the church — are held strictly accountable for their treatment of the children, youths and adults entrusted to their care.

 

Seton Shrine young interpreters bring history to life for visitors

Visitors who walk the grounds of the National Shrine of St. Elizabeth Ann Seton in Emmitsburg often report feeling like they’ve stepped into a history book.

That’s no accident.

Just ask Nikki Robinson, 12, who has spent three years in the shrine’s Junior History Interpreters program. Nikki portrays an actual person in costume, participates in period activities and is there to show — and not just tell — what it was like to be a student in the early 1800s at the first free Catholic school for girls run by an order of religious sisters in the early United States.

“I love learning about history and knowing that I’m walking in the footsteps of Mother Seton and her students,” Nikki said. “The beginning part of the program is where we find out who we are and we get to research and learn what we can about that person. So, getting to know that person, who is kind of lost to history, and bringing them back to the present is really cool.”

The shrine is a place where visitors can walk in the literal footsteps of a saint. Elizabeth Ann Seton, the first U.S.-born American saint to be canonized, lived and worked on the grounds of the current shrine, as she founded the first order of religious sisters in the U.S.

Starting in September, people will be able to visit a new $4 million museum and visitors center dedicated to telling the story of Mother Seton in new and engaging ways.

But an integral part of the shrine remains the expansive grounds and the very buildings in which Mother Seton raised her children, worshipped, taught and ultimately died as one of the most important figures in the history of the Catholic Church in America.

Inside those buildings on afternoons and weekend days year-round, any number of the 29 current members of the Living History program seek to show in real terms what life was like for a 19th-century girl at the school. These volunteers play real historical characters who come to life and interact with guests. In character, these volunteers share about their lives as sisters and students who lived and worked with Mother Seton.

The four-year-old Junior History Interpreters program employs Mother Seton’s educational philosophies and methods, continuing her legacy of mothering to young hearts and minds, forming them in their faith, giving them confidence and training them for success in the world.

Young girls who take part in the Junior History Interpreters program range in age from 8 to 16 and make a commitment to extensive training. To play the part of a student in St. Elizabeth Seton’s school accurately, they must learn many of the traditional skills her students learned, from penmanship and needlework to hospitality and foreign languages.

“The first class we teach is pen and ink,” said Lisa Donahue, the shrine’s museum educator and one of the main teachers in the Junior History Interpreters program. “They learn some basic calligraphy skills. This year we’re having them make their own journals using a hammer and nails to string it.”

She added, “Most importantly the girls are taught why learning these skills was important in the 19th century and they then can teach the visitor.”

The participants commit to a minimum of two hours of training per week and monthly three-hour workshops where they learn what they need to know to immerse themselves in their character. As a result, the junior interpreters themselves often see history come to life in a new way.

“The depth to which they teach the history and values of the church is excellent,” says Trish Robinson, mother of Nikki Robinson. “I studied at Mount St. Mary’s and my husband attended Mother Seton School in Emmitsburg and got his masters from ‘the Mount,’ so this area is special to our family. For Nikki, at age 12, to know and understand the impact that the church and St. Elizabeth had in her own community is pretty outstanding.”

A happy accident of the program are the friendships cultivated among the students themselves. Katie Langville, mother of Giada, a 14-year-old junior history interpreter at the shrine, said, “I like that it is teaching Giada more about our Catholic faith, and it’s also great that she can have fun with our faith with other girls her age. Being part of the program is a great way for my daughter to make friends.”

The opportunity for authentic, faith-based friendship is something Donahue noted as well. She recalled how one student came to share with others in the program that she was being bullied at school, and the whole class rallied to support her.

“She comes after school and on weekends, and she has found real friends here,” said Donahue. “She wants to be here all the time. Those are the things I’m seeing that I’m really proud of — the confidence and self-esteem the girls have developed and the friendships they are making.”

Friendships the girls form in character cross over into real life as well. “Getting to know and working with the other girls in the program has been so great,” said Nikki Robinson. “That’s another way we get to learn more about the students that were there, by talking with each other and sharing ‘our’ histories.”

Trish Robinson also is grateful for that legacy. “I have no doubt,” she says, “That we will look back years from now and see how the JHI program and St. Elizabeth Seton impacted our daughter in the best ways.”

Donahue sees the connection between St. Elizabeth Seton and her young students as a powerful and personal one.

“I tell the girls when they get accepted into the program that they are here because Mother Seton wants them here,” she said. “I really feel like she chose them.”

—Danielle Bean, OSV News

Serving the young and homeless of Burlington

A cooperative effort between a church and a youth services agency — both devoted to relieving the sufferings of the poor — again this year will make a warming shelter for homeless youth available in Burlington.

The Cathedral of St. Joseph Parish is collaborating for the second year with Spectrum Youth and Family Services for its winter warming shelter until March 31.

The shelter — in the parish hall section of the cathedral — opens at 6 p.m. every day and closes at 8 a.m. except on Sundays when it closes at 7 a.m.

The warming shelter provides a safe place for youth to stay and receive support from the staff in whatever way they need. Residents will also have the option of being connected to a case manager for added support and housing navigation.

“Service connection is a huge piece of the warming shelter and will include connecting youth to Spectrum’s numerous other programs as well as other programs in the community,” said Mark Redmond, Spectrum’s executive director.

“The need for this was identified due to our other housing programs being full and our waitlist becoming lengthy.”

Redmond said some youth did not want to access the adult warming shelter due to the age gap and not feeling safe around the adult population.

“The parish was extremely flexible in making the church available,” he said. “They offer up a generous amount of space and access to Spectrum and were eager to do so. When we first approached them, they jumped at the idea of helping out in any way possible, so it has been a natural fit to partner with them.”

Father Lance Harlow, cathedral rector, said the parish is able to provide the space for the youth, and Spectrum is able to provide the staffing, “so it is a co-operative effort between our two institutions both devoted to relieving the sufferings of the poor.”

The Youth Warming Shelter had a successful first year, operating from Nov. 6, 2017, to March 31. Over that period, Spectrum housed 33 youth and averaged about 70 percent occupancy. Of those 33 youth, 11 of them were not known to Spectrum before the shelter opened.

“I’m really grateful for the warming shelter because it’s a safe place to stay when I have nowhere else to go,” said one youth who stayed in the shelter last year.

The parish offers support in setting the shelter up, property management, gathering meal and clothing donations from parishioners and making sure that all needs are met. “Father Harlow routinely checks in with staff and youth to ensure that everything is going well and to offer support,” Redmond said.

—Originally published in the Winter 2018 issue of Vermont Catholic magazine.

 

 

Serving dinner with a side of respect, camaraderie

Mike St. Pierre sat down at the large dining room table covered in a green tablecloth set for a dozen, adding food to his plate as it was passed. “The (dinner) plates are too small,” he said with a laugh.

That’s because he really liked the meal — hamburgers and hot dogs cooked on the grill and served with homemade beans, potato salad, fruit salad and all the fixings.

It was a Tuesday dinner at the men’s Dismas House in Rutland, a supportive community for former prisoners transitioning from incarceration. Its mission is to reconcile former prisoners with society and society with former prisoners.

Volunteers make and serve dinners there Monday through Friday, and on this night the meal was provided by Katrina and Larry Corbett, parishioners of Christ the King Church in Rutland, and prepared and served by the couple and Sister of St. Joseph Shirley Davis of Rutland, a former teacher, principal and assistant Catholic school superintendent.

Before the blessing of the meal, those at the table — including residents, a staff member, the volunteers and a guest — took turns offering gratitude for such things as Dismas House, the meal, family and second chances.

“For people who might not have had the same life experiences or opportunities as we have, this (meal) demonstrates what a family eating at a table is,” Katrina Corbett said. “It’s a simple way people connect and communicate and show appreciation.”

Resident Tim Blanchard said the volunteer cooks are “good for our morale,” and the social interaction with them at the table makes the transitional living situation “feel like home.” He likes the fellowship, meeting new people and the variety of healthy meals provided.

John Vincenzi, another resident, looks forward to the meals and getting to know people from all walks of life when they come to provide them. “It’s humbling to have people come and talk and give us nourishment” both for body and mind, he said as he and other residents cleaned up after the dinner.

There are now seven residents at the men’s Dismas House in Rutland.

Geraldine Burke, an assistant director of Rutland Dismas, said the volunteers that provide the meals and eat with residents “are the secret sauce to Dismas” because they provide a connection to the community.

There’s camaraderie among the volunteers and the residents. When Katrina Corbett learned that Blanchard had just turned 40, she drew a laugh from the others at the table when she exclaimed, “I have pocketbooks older than you!”

Sister Davis grew up in a farm family of 10 children; she knows what it’s like to have a family meal, and she knows it’s important for the residents to experience that. Though some may be more reserved than others, the residents know they can sit at the table and be shown respect and have an enjoyable time.

Many residents have never sat at a family dinner table, Burke said. But “once they see it in action,” they feel more comfortable, Sister Davis added.

She and Corbett are in charge of the dinner at Dismas [either the men’s or the women’s house in Rutland] every month or two as needed.

“It’s an opportunity for them to feel uplifted and valued,” Corbett said.

She enjoys cooking, and family and friends enjoy the delicious meals she makes. “On the most basic level, food is what brings community together,” said the emergency aid coordinator for Vermont Catholic Charities Inc. in southern Vermont. “This [Dismas dinner] is a good example of fellowship with food. … Food takes the edge off everything. Sharing a meal is very nurturing. … It’s an opportunity for [everyone at the table] to feel uplifted and valued.”

—Originally published in the Summer 2023 issue of Vermont Catholic magazine.

 

Service trip to Peru

During the February school vacation, 16 students from Rice Memorial High School in South Burlington traveled to Lima, Peru, with chaperones and parents to volunteer at a home for abandoned and at-risk boys and at a home for children who need medical attention.

“I learned how rewarding giving back to others can truly be,” said sophomore Hannah Cawley.

They did manual labor and spent time with the children.

“This trip helped me put into practice the Catholic values I’ve been taught at Rice because we prayed and went to Mass nearly every day,” said Gavin Roberge, a sophomore. “I think this trip really changed perspective for me. I’m more grateful for the things I have in my life after seeing the things that the children we worked with in Peru experience and how they keep a positive attitude on life and everything around them. It is truly inspirational. This trip has made me want to reach out and help more people like this.

Elisabetta Anelli, director of campus ministry at Rice, was one of the chaperones. “The purpose of the trip was part pilgrimage — we saw the homes/tombs of St. Rose of Lima and St. Martin de Porres and had Mass and Adoration — part cultural immersion — interacting and getting to know local youth, experiencing the food, language and faith — and part service,” she explained.

Rice parent Pamela King grew up in Peru and suggested the service trip there. “With Pamela’s connections and familiarity with Lima, it seemed like a good place to start,” Anelli said.

The Rice group connected with the children’s homes, and King — one of the chaperones — also connected the group with a local Catholic youth group who spent a day with the Rice contingent teaching them songs, playing games, performing dances and sharing their faith.

At the boys home the Vermonters did household chores, gardened, cleared brush and tilled soil. At the other home, they had “baby hour,” time to hold and play with the babies for a few hours, took the older children to the park and did a variety of household chores and cleaning. A few of the students painted a mural of The Little Mermaid in the courtyard.

“We did not go to Peru to help people because they need our help but to meet others who became our friends and our family,” Anelli said. “Sure, our life circumstances may be different, but really there is nothing that makes any of us different from any of them. Because of our shared faith, in a very real way, we are not only the same, but we are family.”

Said Cawley: “It was amazing to see youth just as excited about the faith as we were. We were so humbled as a group to learn that these teens were so excited to let us learn about their culture and faith.”

Sophomore Finnian Rugg said, “The world is a lot bigger than we think, [but] no matter where you go you can always connect with someone.”

“I learned that there is so many things that are not as important as we think they are and that we can perfectly live without them. And you don’t need [much] stuff to be happy,” said sophomore Blanca Viadero Diez.

Anelli was proud of the students throughout the course of this trip. “They were open to the whole experience — from the food (a lot of chicken and rice), the heat, the new language and the work,” she said. “A sister at the boys home told us that she was impressed with our group because it was clear that they came not just to do the fun stuff, but to work and to be equals with our hosts.”

 

 

Service is a calling for all, not a select few, pope says

Following Christ’s example of love and service to those in need is not a task reserved to a select few but a calling for all Christians, Pope Francis said.

Jesus’ image of entering the kingdom of heaven through a “narrow gate” does not mean that “only a few are destined to go through it” but instead means living “one’s life in love, in service, and in giving oneself as he did,” the pope said Aug. 21 during his Sunday Angelus address.

“To enter the plan God proposes for our life requires that we restrict the space of selfishness, reduce the presumption of self-sufficiency, lower the heights of pride and arrogance, and that we overcome laziness, in order to traverse the risk of love, even when it involves the cross,” he said.

After praying the Angelus prayer, Pope Francis said he was following news of the continued repression against the Catholic Church in Nicaragua “with concern and sorrow.”

On Aug. 19, Nicaraguan police burst into Matagalpa diocesan headquarters and removed Bishop Rolando Álvarez and nearly a dozen others who had been under house arrest for more than two weeks.

Although the pope did not specifically mention Bishop Álvarez’s arrest, he prayed for peace in the country through Mary’s intercession.

“I would like to express my conviction and my hope that, through an open and sincere dialogue, the basis for a respectful and peaceful co-existence might still be found. Let us ask the Lord, through the intercession of the ‘Purísima’ (‘Mary Most Pure’), to inspire everyone’s heart with this concrete will,” he said.

As he has nearly every week, he also prayed for the people of Ukraine.

Addressing an estimated 12,000 pilgrims gathered in St. Peter’s Square, the pope reflected on St. Luke’s Gospel, in which Jesus responds to a question about those who will be saved by calling on his followers to “strive to enter through the narrow gate.”

The image of a narrow gate, the pope said, “could scare us, as if salvation is destined for only a few elect, or perfect people.”

However, he added, the belief that only a chosen few people would “contradict” Jesus’ teaching that all are welcome “at the table in the kingdom of God.”

“This door is narrow, but is open to everyone,” he said. “Do not forget this. The door is open to everyone.”

Nevertheless, Jesus’ use of the image of the narrow gate was his way of telling Christians that “to enter into God’s life, into salvation, we need to pass through Him, not through another one, through Him; to welcome Him and His word.”

He also called on Christians to reflect on “those daily acts of love that we struggle to carry on with” and to reflect on those who dedicate their lives and sacrifice themselves to help those in need, including parents, as well as those who serve the elderly and the poor.”

“Let’s think of those who keep on working committedly, putting up with discomfort and, perhaps, with misunderstanding; let’s think of those who suffer because of their faith, but who continue to pray and love; let’s think of those who, rather than following their own instincts, respond to evil with good, finding the strength to forgive and the courage to begin again,” he said.

Pope Francis encouraged Christians to follow the example of those who choose “the narrow door of Jesus” and not “the wide door of their own convenience.”

“Brothers and sisters, which side do we want to be on?” the pope asked. “Do we prefer the easy way of thinking only about ourselves, or do we choose the narrow door of the Gospel that puts our selfishness into crisis, but which makes us able to welcome the true life that comes from God and makes us happy? Which side are we on?”

— Junno Arocho Esteves